A contract with your family

Urban & Nicki Meyer workingout
Urban & Nicki Meyer workingout (Photo credit: hectorir)

I was moved by Urban Meyer's contract with his children written by his daughter Nicki that he signed before he signed his contract to coach football with Ohio State.

It said:

1. My family will always come first.
2. I will take care of myself and maintain good health.
3. I will go on a trip once a year with Nicki — MINIMUM.
4. I will not go more than nine hours a day at the office.
5. I will sleep with my cell phone on silent.
6. I will continue to communicate daily with my kids.
7. I will trust God's plan and not be overanxious.
8. I will keep the lake house.
9. I will find a way to watch Nicki and Gigi play volleyball.
10. I will eat three meals a day.

Do we consider our family when we make promises? Do we make a promise to them first? Do we make a promise to take care of ourselves?

Whether or not you agree with his ten points, it is about getting our priorities straight. In my church's film Courageous, the fathers made a pledge to their families called the Resolution.

In today's stress and struggle, it is important to know what you believe. To know your priorities must come before you can follow your priorities. If your life seems to be in a mess and you're not getting out of it what you feel needs to be happening, it may be time to set your priorities and live it. (You could start with 20 Questions to make you a better person to help.)

You are a product of your habits. (See “The routine of being amazing“) Habits are decided. Let your priorities set your habits and you'll be aligned with things you think are important.

I challenge you to right now make a draft of your priorities. If you were going to sign a contract with yourself, what would it look like? With your family?

Don't rush out and write something and scrawl your name, such things should be taken with all seriousness and intention or they are just another reason kids have to distrust their parents. We need more commitments from parents. It is hard. It would be easy not to care. It is the hardest job in the world to be a parent. We're all flawed. Our kids are too. But it is something that should be done with care, intent, and purpose. We must be courageous.

Urban has me thinking about this and my kids as I work on book number 2 (Collaborative Writing in the Cloud) in the office today. Think about priorities. I am.

Remember your noble calling, parent. No one can do your job but YOU. You ROCK if you care. Do you dare to level it up? Be a better parent.

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Vicki Davis is a full-time classroom teacher and IT Director in Georgia, USA. She is Mom of three, wife of one, and loves talking about the wise, transformational use of technology for teaching and doing good in the world. She hosts the 10 Minute Teacher Podcast which interviews teachers around the world about remarkable classroom practices to inspire and help teachers. Vicki focuses on what unites us -- a quest for truly remarkable life-changing teaching and learning. The goal of her work is to provide actionable, encouraging, relevant ideas for teachers that are grounded in the truth and shared with love. Vicki has been teaching since 2002 and blogging since 2005. Vicki has spoken around the world to inspire and help teachers reach their students. She is passionate about helping every child find purpose, passion, and meaning in life with a lifelong commitment to the joy and responsibility of learning. If you talk to Vicki for very long, she will encourage you to "Relate to Educate" or "innovate like a turtle" or to be "a remarkable teacher." She loves to talk to teachers who love their students and are trying to do their best. Twitter is her favorite place to share and she loves to make homemade sourdough bread and cinnamon rolls and enjoys running half marathons with her sisters. You can usually find her laughing with her students or digging into a book.

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