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Throwing Students Across the Room Doesn’t Work, This Does…

There aren't enough scented candles and bubble bath in the world to soothe the stress of a teacher who has completely lost control in her classroom and can't get it back. But you can get it back. While considering the horrible incident at Spring Valley, I've thought about it a thousand ways. There is no reason I could ever find or see to hurl a child across a room. I don't care how disrespectful or defiant they are– there are better ways to handle a situation than what we saw in Spring Valley.

YES! I've had a kid defiantly poke out his lip and tell me he wasn't leaving the classroom. I've felt the fury as the Defiant One glared smugly at me, nostrils flaring with a knowing grin on his face.

throwing students across the room does not work this does

I've seen the other students watching the drama between the Defiant One and me. Time crawls and the scene plays out in slow motion. Your senses are sharp. You hear every rustle. You feel the eyes. The two gunslingers have faced off on the square, and only one will come out alive. Honestly! Honestly? When you sink to the level of arguing with a child, you become child-ish. There is always, I mean always a better way.

But what? How do we deal with this? What do we do with the Defiant Ones? How do we get a class to be quiet when they just won't? How do we regain our composure, control of our classroom, and our sanity?

My goodness teachers, let's remember the tools we can use. Let's be the professionals we're called to be. Of course, it is easy to Monday morning quarterback a situation that we had nothing to do with and weren't there to see. But if you'll listen to this show, Steve Miletto has the best tool you'll need for handling your Defiant One.

Essential Questions: Throwing Students Across the Room Does Not Work, This Does…

  • What are the five elements of classroom management?
  • How do you get a classroom to be quiet without constantly “shushing” them?
  • How can teachers and principals de-escalate a situation that has gotten out of control?

[callout]Let's master the roaring tiger within that growls angrily when anyone threatens our domain. Let's learn how to do this job with love, grace, and great relationships.

This whole situation breaks my heart. This is not who we are. This shouldn't happen in our schools. This cannot be the noble profession we love, cherish and inhabit. Let's talk about this and do better.

My gratitude goes out to Steve Miletto who gives us such a succinct review of the principles we all know we should. His de-escalation strategy is masterful.[/callout]

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Vicki Davis is a full-time classroom teacher and IT Director in Georgia, USA. She is Mom of three, wife of one, and loves talking about the wise, transformational use of technology for teaching and doing good in the world. She hosts the 10 Minute Teacher Podcast which interviews teachers around the world about remarkable classroom practices to inspire and help teachers. Vicki focuses on what unites us -- a quest for truly remarkable life-changing teaching and learning. The goal of her work is to provide actionable, encouraging, relevant ideas for teachers that are grounded in the truth and shared with love. Vicki has been teaching since 2002 and blogging since 2005. Vicki has spoken around the world to inspire and help teachers reach their students. She is passionate about helping every child find purpose, passion, and meaning in life with a lifelong commitment to the joy and responsibility of learning. If you talk to Vicki for very long, she will encourage you to "Relate to Educate" or "innovate like a turtle" or to be "a remarkable teacher." She loves to talk to teachers who love their students and are trying to do their best. Twitter is her favorite place to share and she loves to make homemade sourdough bread and cinnamon rolls and enjoys running half marathons with her sisters. You can usually find her laughing with her students or digging into a book.

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1 comment

Sal Escobales January 12, 2016 - 6:29 pm

I enjoyed the article. There are clearly many things that can be done to de-escalate a child in a class so that situations like those in Springfield do not occur.


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