Necessary Endings: book Review - an excellent book for leaders and decisionmakers

Necessary Endings: Making Hard Decisions [Book Review]

Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships that All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward by Henry Cloud is a must read for educators or any professional or person who is caught in making hard decisions about working with people.

At the Crossroads of Decision

There are times when you're afraid. You can find a million reasons that you can't do something. It is daunting. It might be hard. It might be something that won't be easy or could be controversial.

How do you overcome all of this resistance when you know that you need to move forward anyway?

We all live these moments. We all experience these times. Times when you wake up in the morning and realize that you've got something amiss and need to do something about it.

It has been that way for me with moving my blog. I was scared. I knew it would be hard. It is still hard. But, I've done it. I actually stared at the ceiling awake at night thinking about it.

Necessary Endings Book Review

Sometimes in order to choose the best we have to give up something that is good but not great. We can't do everything. We're finite. How do we make that decision? Necessary Endings has a helpful framework.

Sometimes you need to make a necessary ending, how do you decide?

But there are other things that can cause this to happen. Much more serious, harder things. I remember when I was a freshman in college. I had a “friend” who I did so many things with. But one day I woke up and realized that every time we did anything together it was always her call. What she wanted to do. Where she wanted to go. When she wanted to do it. If I wasn't available then, I got a guilt trip.

If you are a pleaser, like me, this is a dangerous relationship to be in. As a pleaser, we will give and give until there is quite literally nothing left. While I don't really usually care where we eat or where we go or even when – when your needs and thoughts and wants are entirely ignored you begin to. Further than that, when you don't do the smallest things the way the other person wants you to and they become upset– it is an unhealthy relationship and it is time to end it.

This is why the book Necessary Endings has been so helpful for me. It has helped me, as a pleaser, see that I should sometimes end things and how to tell when it should happen.

Read Chapter 7 to decide what students or employees to work with and how to work with those who don't listen or ever change

But it is also a helpful book for any manager. How do you know when a person is going to change or how to determine who you can work with and who should be removed from your organization? Chapter 7 of the book is one of the most important chapters I've read and I asked my 9th graders to listen to Michael Hyatt's Podcast on that chapter (starting at around minute 14) for bonus from last semester. (As a side note, my state winning basketball coach/friend Jenni read Chapter 7 and said it helped her with coaching and she talked about it with her girls.)

There are times when endings need to happen. Not all the time. Not super often. But sometimes. And those times can make a huge difference in your life. While not easy to end things that aren't working out, if they are harming you, your health, and your family, you have to ask what price you're willing to pay.

There are times that employees, jobs, and relationships should end. The wisdom is knowing when to end it and when you can work it out.

 

Necessary Endings: My Book Review Conclusion

This is one of the best books I've read for wise life guidance next to Dale Carnegie's “How to Win Friends and Influence People' and is a must read for those who want to be leaders in their organizations or just want to live a better life.

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Vicki Davis is a full-time classroom teacher and IT Director in Georgia, USA. She is Mom of three, wife of one, and loves talking about the wise, transformational use of technology for teaching and doing good in the world. She hosts the 10 Minute Teacher Podcast which interviews teachers around the world about remarkable classroom practices to inspire and help teachers. Vicki focuses on what unites us -- a quest for truly remarkable life-changing teaching and learning. The goal of her work is to provide actionable, encouraging, relevant ideas for teachers that are grounded in the truth and shared with love. Vicki has been teaching since 2002 and blogging since 2005. Vicki has spoken around the world to inspire and help teachers reach their students. She is passionate about helping every child find purpose, passion, and meaning in life with a lifelong commitment to the joy and responsibility of learning. If you talk to Vicki for very long, she will encourage you to "Relate to Educate" or "innovate like a turtle" or to be "a remarkable teacher." She loves to talk to teachers who love their students and are trying to do their best. Twitter is her favorite place to share and she loves to make homemade sourdough bread and cinnamon rolls and enjoys running half marathons with her sisters. You can usually find her laughing with her students or digging into a book.

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